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Love At first Sight: Does It Really Exists

If we didn't feel attracted to someone a long time ago we would be extinct from the planet. Loving and being loved is an experience that drives any human being crazy. The same happens with the possibility that someone likes us or we like him. However, we could say that everything starts right with the attraction. We unconsciously evaluate traits that we find attractive in a potential partner. Even nature itself is an example of this when the birds choose the partner with the best plumage.

In the case of the attraction of human beings, scientists call those features that deviate from cultural standards of beauty asymmetrical fluctuations (indicators of ugliness), but we also unconsciously perform an automatic evaluation of the possible state of health of the other person and this is reflected when we observe: the appearance of the skin , the way of walking, the teeth, the face, or a snapshot of the body. And, all those perceived data that in the first instance give us an indication of who is in front of us. We hope that it does not present asymmetries and that is a first step, which make up the multifactorial complexity of love or attraction at first sight.

Even today, there is no global consensus of what we understand as love at first sight, in its polysemic approach, (that is, it has several ways of being interpreted) we see three different concepts:

i. It can be the experience we have in a few fractions of a second. We only saw the person, without speaking to him.

ii. A meeting of a few fractions of a second and we exchange a look, a smile or a greeting.

iii. Also a meeting of a few minutes as it happens in a speed date.

Each of these events will leave a sensory imprint, which will also be compared to the imprint of love or attraction (the original idea that has been recorded in our brain of love or attraction), that each one of us we carry inside. For example, if we see that person, but we don't talk to him, he leaves us materially in a state of emotional shock , blaming us for not having talked to him. And, we could blame ourselves for not having had the courage to do it or we curse the circumstances that did not allow us that valuable meeting.

To put it in other words, we are left with the expectation of happiness and frustrated, as it happens in many popular songs or movies. However, this refers to the initial contact of the first sight, not necessarily to love. If a person seems attractive to us, we connect with the stereotype of beauty and tend to think that physically attractive people have socially desirable personality traits and lead a happier life than less attractive people.

The first impression counts a lot (primacy effect), not only does it allow us to make a quick evaluation: emotional, biological and hormonal of the person, we also tend to idealize it and tend to attribute positive socially desirable traits to it. Love at first sight leaves a positive evaluation that will surely affect subsequent encounters if any (Halo Effect).

As at that moment we have no more information, our perception makes us complete the information through our needs (physiological, social, psychological and more), the speed with which all this happens is still unknown. We generally idealize that person and that clouds our rational vision in social interaction. A physical attraction is also required. However, if the choice of partner were based only on facts, it would be very complicated.

The good news is that it increases the predisposition to start a relationship. For a lasting effect to occur, mutual understanding is necessary. If the feelings last and the first impression leaves room for a realistic understanding of the other person, then we can speak of true love.

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