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How To Stop Hating Yourself For Past Mistakes

Have you ever been consumed by your own guilt as a result of past errors? Maybe it's your dying mum... She begged to see you on her deathbed, but you made excuses and refused...until she eventually died...

Maybe your Siamese cat was meowing so loudly that it kept you awake at night. You decided to let him out for a while, but he was sadly hit by a car.

Perhaps you're haunted by a recollection of allowing others to tread on you without standing up for yourself.

You're the worst enemy you've ever had. You've turned into your own severe critic. Introspection and self-reflection are both beneficial, as they help you become more humane and self-aware. However, when done in unhealthy quantities or in excess, you will begin to beat yourself up, disrupting your peace of mind.

So, what can you do to quit hating yourself for the mistakes you've made in the past?

1. Talk back to your inner critic

Do you pay attention to your inner voice? Is it upbeat and encouraging, or is it depressing and self-defeating?

When we make mistakes, we frequently obsess on them incessantly and are unduly judgmental of ourselves.

Our negative self-talk is constantly out of touch with reality. When you have an overly critical inner monologue, it can affect every aspect of your life.

It's critical to put some distance between yourself and your negative internal dialogue if you want to stop beating yourself up for good. You can directly address your inner critic, separating your negative self-talk from your own identity, and then introducing a new inner voice that is an ally who is more conscious of yourself and focuses on more positive aspects of yourself.

2. Practice self-compassion

How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you. -Rupi Kaur

Practicing self-compassion is one approach to avoid hating yourself for past mistakes. This is taking a fresh look at what transpired and recasting the situation as a setback rather than a disaster. To yourself, be kind, compassionate, and forgiving. Self-compassion is not the same as selfishness. There's no reason to penalize your future for your previous misdeeds. Allow yourself to forgive yourself, learn from it, and then let it go.

3. Redemption arc or make it right 

“Zuko can do it, so can you! 🙂

Another method to forgive yourself for previous misdeeds is to find a means to make amends by showing love to those you have wronged. But what about the friend who won't talk to you anymore because of a blunder you made? Perhaps they have blocked you from all social media and do not want to communicate with you. How can you still put things right when they're refusing to cooperate? You can use kindness to improve your present friendships or connections. To help you become a better friend in your current friendships, learn from your past failures.

4. Realize that humans make mistakes

Humans are not perfect beings. Because we are not perfect, we are prone to making mistakes. Mistakes are unavoidable in life. You will never be able to grow in significant ways if you go through life without experiencing any setbacks.

To err is human, to forgive is divine. 

So, forgive yourself for the faults you've made in the past. Make a commitment to yourself that now that you've learned your lesson, you'll never make the same mistake twice.

5. Think of mistakes as learning opportunities

Mistakes don't stop you from moving forward; they help you find a better way.

Maybe you've been berating yourself for not sticking up for yourself when someone is stepping over your line. You're down on your luck.

However, you should keep in mind that what has happened to you may have provided you with valuable learning chances. You now have a better understanding of what you should not tolerate. You can try to improve yourself mentally and emotionally so that the next time anything similar happens, you will be better prepared to react and know how to set limits.

Final thoughts

Yes, it's difficult to forgive oneself, especially if you believe you've injured someone you care about. Your conscience is weighted with guilt. Rather of automatically punishing yourself for what you've done, take responsibility for it and try to repair the damage while also developing a more healthy perspective on past mistakes. Then and only then will you be able to mend and find peace.

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