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What to do when someone who ghosted you unexpectedly returns

What do you do when someone who ghosted you is suddenly back in your life? If they were so into you, why did they disappear in the first place? Here's some insight into this trend and what to do if they come back to you after disappearing on you.

1. Ignore them.

You have every right to ignore this person and block their number so they can't reach you again. If you were ghosted by someone with whom you thought you had a real connection and want closure, then read on for other options. There are plenty of ways you can get over someone who ghosted you.

2. Inquire as to what occurred.

Now's your chance to let them have it. Ask them something like, "What the heck happened?" or "Where did you go?" and see what they say.

3. Pretend you don't know them.

You might want to ghost them back, but that might not feel satisfying. An alternative reply is to ask, "Who's this?" and show you've already moved on.

4. Ask them to chat on video.

I suggest they have a video chat so you can see if what they're saying sounds genuine. You'll also be able to see if their verbal and non-verbal communication are in sync.

5. Ask why they're contacting you.

This question might seem low-key and casual, but it's actually pretty deep and will give you a good insight into where they're at.

6. Inform them that they must apologize.

This is another direct message you can send them if you're still angry and upset about what they did to you. They have to know that they have to respect you because you're not going to ignore bad behavior. If they wanted a doormat, they got the wrong number, ladies.

7. Have fun with yourself.

Sometimes there's nothing more satisfying than sending a witty line to someone who's been a jackass. "Never thought I'd speak to a real-life zombie!" or "So you're not lying dead in a gutter but just ignoring me."

8. Trust your instincts.

If you feel like you've been ghosted by someone, or have ghosted someone in the past, listen to your inner voice and let it direct you to the right response that you won't later regret. Listen to your gut and be honest with yourself about what you want to hear from this person.

9. Don't reply immediately.

If you receive an e-mail or phone message from someone you feel like you've heard from for a long time, don't get caught up in the surprise. Instead, take some time to think about how you feel and listen to your gut before responding.

10. Don't get re-ghosted

You don't want to find yourself in that situation, so make sure that you're comfortable with how you're going to reply to them. If you jump into a conversation only to be left hanging mid-convo because they don't have time for you again, you'll kick yourself and wish you hadn't given them the time of day. Maybe they should just go away and stay away for good!

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