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Building Confidence - 5 practical effective tools to help boost your Confidence

Everyone requires a boost of confidence at some point in their lives. Self-confidence is a mindset about one’s own strengths and competence and how one accepts him or herself not arrogantly, but realistically and confidently. This implies that you are in command of your life and you are aware of your own capabilities and weaknesses. Self-confidence is a state of mind and not something that can be built with a set of rules. Different people define confidence in their own different ways but in reality, it simply means believing in oneself.

In a way, how we were raised, taught, experiences, and how we react to diverse circumstances contribute greatly to our confidence and shape our perceptions of ourselves and others.

Self-confidence is a general assessment of your chances of achieving a goal, based on your previous experience. For instance, when you practice playing a particular instrument, you gain confidence in your ability to play that particular instrument. Self-confidence is your conviction in your ability to do well in a given situation, but it is not a measure of your actual ability. What difference does it make if you believe in yourself? The author of ‘’Charisma on Command’’, Chalie Houpert said ‘’confidence does not only make you feel better but it also allows you to take chances in order to enhance or improve your life’’. Self-confidence prepares you to take the necessary risks needed to attain your objectives or goals and not necessarily making you a better person.

Here are some practical effective tools to help boost your self-confidence

1. Always Plan and Prepare when dealing with New and Potentially difficult situations

Before dealing with any circumstance, it is necessary to plan and prepare thoroughly, especially when dealing with anything new. You must set aside time to think deeply, prepare thoroughly, and clear your mind in preparation. Preparation is essential for increasing your self-confidence. When you're well-prepared, you'll feel less stressed. You will feel more in control if you prepare ahead of time. For instance, when going for a job interview, it is always advisable to prepare and practice what you would want to say and some questions that are likely to be asked. It can help you get a head start so you can think and act more effectively. The ability to plan and prepare for the unknown is maybe the most significant aspect of establishing confidence. Knowing what to expect, as well as how and why things are done, will increase your awareness and make you feel more prepared, and thus more confident.

2. Increase your learning and do more research

Learning and research can help us gain confidence in our abilities to handle various situations, responsibilities, and tasks. Once we’ve gained knowledge about something, we need to put the theory into practice to gain experience and constantly doing, it builds confidence and improves learning and comprehension. After an important experience, write down what you’ve learned and reflect on it.  You may be limiting your ability to learn from your own experience if you don't take the time to ponder and record the lessons. Self-confidence is a quality that we develop mostly as a result of repeated positive experiences.

3. Positive Thinking

One of the best approaches to boost your self-confidence is by thinking positively at all times. One is more likely to accomplish something once he or she believes that it can be done. You work hard to ensure the thing is done but you are more likely to approach it half-heartedly and therefore to fail if you do not believe it can be accomplished. Always persuade yourself that you can accomplish something given the necessary assistance, preparation and understanding. Positive thinking's core rules are to focus on your strengths and accomplishments while learning from your flaws and mistakes. This is a lot easier than it sounds because we often focus on things from our past that we don't like, exacerbating them into problems that don't need to be there. These negative beliefs can wreak havoc on your self-confidence and capacity to attain your objectives or goals.

4. Avoid the comparison trap

When you compare yourself to others, you risk losing the self-assurance that comes from believing in your own abilities. Develop an inner sense of trust by doing the right thing for yourself, your employees, and your company. If you study other people's accomplishments, do it to learn rather than to compare yourself to them. Self-comparison is vital when it comes to comparing ourselves. Are you a better person today than you were yesterday? Compare your progress to where you were at the beginning. You might see a boost in your self-confidence if you focus on even little gains in your talents and abilities from day to day rather than comparing yourself to others.

5. Try your very best to avoid the arrogance trap

It's natural to be concerned about growing arrogant when you begin to express yourself more boldly. Arrogance requires external confirmation to feel good, whereas confidence is self-satisfied. As a result, you have people who brag in order to gain attention from others. True self-confidence allows someone to be forceful and stand up for oneself, but they are unlikely to adopt an arrogant tone. Arrogance boast of its accomplishments or abilities and always demand the limelight in gatherings while ignoring the people around them. They make others feel less important, whether knowingly or unwittingly. Confident people, on the other hand, may highlight their colleagues' accomplishments in meetings or group work. They solicit feedback, promote teamwork, and lavishly reward their coworkers. Surprisingly, building true self-confidence is the best safeguard against arrogance.

Self-assurance isn't a static metric or magic, it’s a gradual development that may take days, months or even years to complete. Our confidence in our ability to execute responsibilities and activities and deal with events fluctuates, and we may feel more confident on some days than in others.


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