Being in a relationship with someone in the military is very different from being in any other relationship, especially if you have never been involved in the military in your own life. You might initially anticipate something out of a fairytale. You are holding a sign, wearing a white dress, and everything is perfect as your hero returns home to you. I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but that is simply not the case.
I have a military girlfriend who was deployed during our first six months of dating. There was a lot I learned, but this is just a sample of what I took away from our relationship.
1. They won't always be able to tell you everything.
You must understand that it is not personal. Sincerely, it might be better if you don't know because it's their job. if nothing else, for your own sake.
2. It will be very strange when they get home.
You're so used to working on your own and spending every day by yourself. Now that someone is with you, everything has changed. Don't get me wrong, it's amazing, but getting used to it takes some time. Just be aware that they must also adjust.
3. The honeymoon period is short-lived.
Although you might anticipate spending some time in the "puppy love" stage, your relationship may already be past that stage emotionally and mentally. That's also fine; it demonstrates how much you two have developed as people.
4. You might not enjoy their company.
Particularly if they openly share with you tales of some of their friends cheating on their partners. The fact that they are sharing these tales with you should demonstrate their different points of view.
5. At first, being alone will be awful.
But eventually you'll learn to accept it and give yourself some space.
6. The best thing ever is technology.
We are extremely fortunate to have what we do. I must admit, however, that there have been times when I have been glued to my phone, which distracted me from what I was doing in the moment. However, I felt that it was worthwhile because you never know what might appear on a screen.
7. You'll be so pleased to share your partner's accomplishments with others.
Knowing that someone is battling for our freedom fills one with genuine pride. You won't get tired of telling people about it.
8. Not all of your friends will concur.
You cannot hold them responsible because what you are experiencing is entirely different. Allow them to support you and don't be angry with them.
9. It will be difficult to hear about other relationships.
When friends gripe about not seeing their significant other for three days, you're going to find it annoying. Alternatively, if they are bemoaning a pointless fight. They don't truly understand, as I previously stated. Release it.
10. You'll start silly fights with yourself.
Who knows? Perhaps they have to do with attitude or trust. There will come a time during the argument when you'll question the point of fighting when life is so finite.
11. Always say "I love you" before you go to sleep or end a call.
It's significant. Do it now.
12. During the deployment, almost everything will be fine.
Actually, "okay" is a strong word to use, but you'll establish a schedule for your life and your phone calls. You'll manage to make this your new normal in some way.
13. Seeing them again will be the best feeling ever.
Knowing that they have safely arrived in the United States and that you will soon be holding them in your arms is the best feeling in the world.
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