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Has your proposals been rejected by a girl? Win over her by doing these simple things.

Can you win over a girl who rejected you? You need to align your moves with what you think she may like, gather courage and ask her out again. The following 8 ways can be of help to you.


1. Do not take the rejection too seriously

The first work in this has to be on your own psyche. Rejection is humiliating and chips away at our sense of self. You may think you are less than- perhaps not smart enough, good looking enough, not independent enough, etc, and hence you have been rejected. Change that mindset. Do not take the rejection personally.

Maybe it was not about you. And remember it is better to have tried and failed than never to have tried at all. Also if you would know the number of pieces we get from guys on how to handle rejection you will know it is not as rare as it sounds.


And even if you think it was about you then think about it this way, that because she rejected you you have deep-dived into yourself and getting to know things and if needed working on yourself. It is not a failure but a stumbling block that will teach how what not to do. Get over this self-defeating mind frame and step into one which is filled with positivity and a solid strategy to win your girl over. And the best way to get over rejection in love is to face it!



2. Be true to yourself

How to respond to rejection with dignity? Make a list of all the things that are good about you. Maybe you have that belly, but then you are really smart academically. Maybe you think it is the pox-marked face that was your undoing, but then you are a kind and considerate person loved by everyone.


Maybe you stammer but then you understand the other person’s emotion and bring out the best in them. There could be a hundred things which are right about you and this is the time to acknowledge that.

Remember more often than not, just like guys like pretty girls, girls also do want the charmers and maybe you really are not one. You do not need to change that. All you have to do is warm her on things you do have. Never change who you are just because you got rejected.

Also when you love yourself you will send the right kind of vibes to the girl too. Anyways if you are serious about her you would want the girl to like you for who you are and not a fake version of you have become for her


3. Try to have a fresh start

If you are trying to win over the girl who rejected you then, first of all, take a step back and have a fresh start. Work on removing all the awkwardness surrounding your relationship with the girl after you are rejected by her. Start as a friend the second time around. Don’t try to initiate dinners and romance with her.


And remember as her friend make sure you do not pay extra attention, just be a chilled out friend. This may make her miss that extra care from you and actually make her think about have you lost interest in her? Take the second chance to know her, her likes and dislikes, what makes her sad, what are her goals and dreams


What are her fears? At this stage, we would recommend that you act cooler than her if possible as you would be with a guy friend. But be fun and interesting, be witty but chill! Aim to become her best friend. Here is a quiz to know if you are one. Talk to her, offer help, be kind or funny, and watch for signs of affection.


4. Examine your approach

If you want to know how to turn around a rejection from a girl then you need to introspect on what you could have done wrong? Were you a bit too cheeky? Or did you come out as under-confident? Did you seem too much in awe that put her off (remember girls, though want attention still like men who are not all over them like puppies)?

Or were you almost aggressive? Were you all about yourself or were you interested in her and more importantly listening to what she was saying. Was it something about the way you proposed that she doubted your intention? Trace the steps you took and try and deduce what could have possibly gone wrong

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