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After his mother abandoned them, a single father takes care of his son who has cerebral palsy.

Many couples wish to hear the cry of a newborn baby in their own home. Martin Edem Asato, 30, and his wife welcomed their first child four years ago, and it was nothing short of a blessing.

However, a year after the birth of their son, Martin Junior, the joy of having their own child began to fade. This was due to their son exhibiting some concerning behaviors.

"He was deafeningly silent." His muscles are all weak. He is unable to stand or sit on his own. I took him to the hospital, and he was diagnosed with cerebral palsy, "Mr. Asato told Joy Prime's Emmanuel Dzivenu during a visit to his home in Mafi Adidome, a community in the Volta Region's Central Tongu District.

Mr. Asato and his wife were concerned about the health of their only child after receiving the diagnosis.

In addition to having little to no knowledge of cerebral palsy, they had to deal with their family, whose misconceptions about the disease began to take their toll, particularly Mr. Asato's relationship with his wife.

His wife's family claimed that he was to blame for their son's condition. They went on to claim that he had cursed their son.

The pressure eventually got to her. Everything began to fall apart for the single father, and his wife eventually abandoned him and the child.

"The mother's family put pressure on her to find a way to leave the child." "She eventually left, and I took over as mother and father," he explained.

Martin Junior is four years old and is solely cared for by his father. "With the exception of breastfeeding, I do everything."

The youngster has a slack neck and stiff muscles, making movement difficult. He can barely care for himself.

Mr. Asato, like any parent who is concerned about their child, did not limit his concern to his son's diagnosis.

Mr. Asato sought treatment from several health facilities, and when that failed, he tried traditional herbalists, but to no avail. The realities of being a single father with a special-needs child became clear soon after.

Mr. Asato, a trained teacher from the University of Education Winneba, quit his job to be his son's full-time caregiver.

"When I wake up, I do the housework—sweep and wash," he explained. When he (the child) awakens, I bathe, massage, and feed him. After that, we either go outside or watch television. "

On the other hand, caring for children with cerebral palsy is a full-time job that can be exhausting. Martin Junior requires a lot of care at home and goes to the hospital for a medical checkup and physiotherapy.

So, despite his love for his son, Mr. Asato needed to work to ensure their survival. His only source of income is the motorcycle he received from a friend.

He explained that in order to put food on his son's table every day, he leaves him alone indoors for a few hours and goes to ride his bike and earn money.

Mr. Asato stated that he avoids long-distance rides because he is afraid of leaving Martin Junior alone for extended periods of time.

It doesn't help that they face ridicule and stigma from their community, leaving the single father with no one to turn to.

Mr. Asato, however, stated that his love for his son outweighs public ridicule and rejection, despite the fact that it has not been an easy journey.

To keep prying eyes away from his life, the single father has chosen to stay indoors with his son, drowning their misery with music.

Cerebral palsy has no known cause, but genetic abnormalities, congenital brain disorders, maternal infections, and fatal injuries have all been linked to the condition.

Although there are no official statistics on the number of children affected, Cerebral Palsy Africa estimates that one child out of every 300 is affected in Ghana.

Mr. Asato wishes for assistance that will relieve him of the burden of raising his son alone.

"I need help setting up a computer shop close to home so that I can cater to the children and train school dropouts," he explained.

For the time being, Martin continues to shower love on his son, hoping that life will smile on them one day.

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