Many wives deserve respect from their husbands and this is so because, several women can clearly testify that, somehow, their husbands do not show them enough respect. It even gets sickening, when a wife identifies that, another woman, who may have less of her qualities and beauty, may be receiving so much respect from her husband.
Interestingly, whereas the New Testament, was emphatic that, wives must respect their husbands, the Old Testament came closest to painting a picture where men showed respect to their wives, when he used the phrase, "he praiseth her."
See how these two scriptures affirm these two points respectively:
"However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband." - Ephesians 5:33 ESV
“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her… She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.” - Proverbs 31:10-11 & 26-31 (KJV).
What is my point? Your desire to have your husband show you some respect is genuine, its backed by scripture and God approves of it. This is why, deep down in your heart and in the priceless hearts of several other women, respect must be shown them genuinely.
But lets just agree that, it has to be bought. Yes, bought, but not with money or your great food. And interestingly, the very scripture, which advocated for respect for wives, also hold the pragmatic measure, which attracts the husbands respect. It cites a few more ways, but the first, is of course, the main one.
Its like preparing food, whatever kind it is, there is always one thing, that must go in first and some come last. Its same in this case, many ignore the first and goes on to do the rest, and its no wonder, they miss out on the respect.
So lets look at it now:
"“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her… She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her."
Yes, you saw it too. She placed "looketh well to the ways of her household, " secondary and even your diligence at home "and eateth not the bread of idleness," third.
What the all knowing and wise Bible puts first is this: "She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness." Yes, you read it right! The words you intentionally choose to speak to your husband, attracts respect.
You look at this scenario, are your colleagues at work, at church, or your old classmates not full of respect for you? YES, THEY DO! and this is because, "you have never really had to tell them your mind" and its same with that neighbour that your husband respects more than you, she has never gotten into a fight and said it all to him.
So hope you please get it now? Your desire to receive "respect" from your husband is attainable, only if you will choose to be guided by your words. Don't tell yourself its difficult or impossible, because it isn't! Your boss at work or that pastor, may be harsher and unruly sometimes, but you have over the years, tried to maintain your calmness around him for all these years and you can even do better, to the man, you love and have sworn, to live with for your entire life. Just show him some "kindness," next time he even does or say something silly or abnormal and soon, according to the wise counsel of the scripture, he will be full of praise "respect" for you.
All the best ladies! Kindly SHARE, if this blessed you.
Comment also, if it touched your heart and write out your promise, to start doing this, IT WORKS!
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