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Reasons it’s okay for newly married Ghanaian couple to cut toxic family members out of their life

We understand that your relationship with your family is supposed to be a mythological link that no one or nothing can sever. 

However, it's sometimes acceptable to maintain a long-term separation from or exclusion from harmful family members. 

Tolerance of a toxic family member should never put your mental, emotional, or physical wellbeing at risk. It's critical to know the signs of a toxic individual before you start blocking Aunt Susan and your second cousin. 

1. They're pessimistic. 

While constructive criticism is beneficial, inappropriate criticism can damage a person's self-esteem. 

2. They Get a Kick Out of Drama. 

Have you ever sought personal guidance from a family member? Yet, after sharing your most sensitive moments with them—someone you believed was a trusted ally—everyone in your family (including your distant cousin in Eastern Region, whom you've never met) knows everything about your personal life. 

3. They Deceive You. 

It may not appear to be a severe situation if your family member claims they never said anything while you and everyone else know they did. 

However, this is a type of gaslighting, which is a sort of emotional abuse. It's also fine to eliminate toxic family members out of your life in order to protect your mental health. 

4. They only communicate with you when they require your assistance. 

They'll frequently seek your counsel or emotional support. When you seek help from them, however, they disregard your needs or use your personal information against you. 

They Switch Back and Forth Between Positive And Negative Reinforcement. 

They have the ability to lash out at you, yell at you, and insult you. If you ignore them after this foolish attack, they'll probably try to entice you back into their trap by offering you phony praise and encouragement. 

These pleasant contacts are usually fleeting before this person reverts to their usual deceptive behavior. 

Anyone in your family who exhibits any of these signs of toxic and abusive conduct is endangering your mental health. 

Even toxic interactions with family members can exhaust you emotionally, negatively impacting your mental health. You should not, however, accept this as the existing quo. 

People can employ a variety of tactics to make these situations more palatable, the most common of which involves putting some distance between oneself and the toxic individual. 

In many circumstances, though, the best answer is to completely exclude the toxic person from your life. 

In the case of close familial connections, such as with a parent, this is rarely straightforward and often challenging and emotionally conflicting. 

However, when circumstances deteriorate to the point where it is difficult to live a happy and free life, this is frequently the best course of action. 

Because anyone can have a poisonous influence on your life, this destructive behavior isn't limited to sexual partnerships. 

To assist you stay within these boundaries, keep in mind that there is always a learning curve when dealing with poison. 

In partnerships, there will be times of doubt, guilt, and possible loss. You must decide how much of a sacrifice you are prepared to make to safeguard your emotions and others who rely on you to do so. 

It's sometimes necessary to cause harm to oneself in order to benefit another. The hurt is never malicious; it is always done with love and respect. A person's behavior is determined by his or her choices. 

Even if you have a natural desire to keep your toxic family member in your life. It's critical to understand that retaining a toxic family member in your life can be detrimental to your mental health, especially if that family member is your parent. 

It's not a big deal if they don't change. 

While you may try to persuade the family member that what they're doing is hurting you emotionally, it's possible that they won't change—and that's fine. 

Even if the toxic family member in your life never changes, it's fine. Though you may get obsessed with persuading them to change, your mental health may suffer as a result of your passion. 

It may seem impossible to imagine a life without a family member, but it is possible—because you don't need them. 

It will take time to recuperate from the abuse, even after you've distanced yourself from that poisonous individual, and that's fine. 

Because family is a subjective term, you can create a new family with the help of your supporting pals. 

Surrounding yourself with individuals who are supportive of you can allow you to maintain the positive change you desire in your life. 

It can become a never-ending cycle of abuse until you recognize that the conduct is detrimental and that it will not alter unless you separate yourself from this family member. 

Another stumbling obstacle is the social pressure to 'respect thy mother and father.' 

Sometimes the greatest decision is to cut a parent out of your life, but you'll need a lot of help and education to do so successfully and successfully. 

They'll almost certainly claim that they've been victimized because you're avoiding them, or because they've made you feel guilty.

They're using the same abusive tactics they've used in the past, and you shouldn't welcome them back into your life. 

Toxic conduct is noxious, and you don't need it to harm your mental health. It's quite acceptable to remove harmful family members from your life!

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