Today's write-up stresses on secrets for a fulfilling marriage life. Below are five secrets of fulfilling marriage life you need to know as couples.
ACCEPT YOUR PARTNER AS HE OR SHE IS, NOT AS YOU WOULD LIKE THEM TO BE. At the beginning of a relationship, we tend to idealize the other. We only see the positive points and we free ourselves from the negative points. But once the euphoria of the beginning has subsided, we open our eyes. We become aware that the other person is not perfect, besides who can claim to be perfect?As you know, each individual has his or her qualities and faults, including you. It is at this moment that true love begins. The day when you are able to accept your partner as he really is and not as you would like him to be.
THE BEST WAY TO COMMUNICATE IS TO LISTEN. When we talk about communication, we imagine that we have to talk. But to communicate effectively, we must first be silent. This means not interrupting the other person, even if we don’t agree with them. It means showing that we are not just listening to what he or she has to say, but that we are actively listening. Putting yourself in your partner’s shoes and trying to understand their point of view, even if we don’t share it, allows us to establish effective and caring communication within the couple.
YOUR PARTNER CAN’T GUESS WHAT YOU ARE THINKING. Everyone sees the world in his or her own way, and the interpretation of the same event varies from one individual to another, depending on past experiences. Values are also specific to each individual, what is important to you is not necessarily important to others. You can’t blame your partner for not interpreting things the same way you do. If you want things to change, express how you feel by clearly sharing your expectations and your point of view.
IF YOUR PARTNER DOESN’T UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU’RE TRYING TO EXPLAIN, IT’S YOUR FAULT, NOT THEIRS. When our partner doesn’t understand what we are trying to tell them, we tend to blame them. Your partner may not share your point of view. However, if they don’t understand what you are trying to say, you are not expressing yourself correctly. This is a basic principle in communication. Be patient and educational, change your terms so that your interlocutor understands your message.
THE PAST BELONGS TO THE PAST. During an argument, we may have a tendency to bring up old subjects that have no connection with the quarrel that has just broken out. This may be a way of justifying oneself or of burdening one’s partner further. Whatever the reason, this attitude is counterproductive, instead of calming the atmosphere, it amplifies the argument for the wrong reasons. What is in the past should remain in the past, when you have an argument, focus on the real subject of the dispute to find solutions.
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