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My Husband Has Been Sick For a Long Time Now, I am Tired of Taking Him Round Different Hospitals

Marriage brings many challenges. I heard it many times, even before I got married, and I'm okay with what's going on in my life. I entered this marriage with the intention of having a happy family with a loving, supportive, caring, and honest husband and wonderful children, but so far I have experienced more pain, stress, unhappiness, and sadness than love and peace. I married the man of my dreams in 2017. I had just finished youth ministry and was looking for a job when I met him. Things were going well between us, and he even helped me get a high-paying job with the help of my paternal uncle. We were together for a year and got married in 2019. Seven months after we got married, my husband was in a car accident that seriously affected his life and business. It also affected my life and I was three months pregnant at the time. My husband has many fractures which are difficult to treat properly. The first few hospitals he visited said one of his legs had to be amputated to avoid further complications. I refused, his family also refused and said we can find a better hospital to handle the situation better.


Then we went to another hospital that promised to be well treated without amputation, but it would take a long time to recover and a lot of money, and we agreed. They started treatment, but my husband really didn't improve, we spent three weeks in this hospital and transferred him to another place. While all this was going on, I was pregnant and trying to cope with hospital visits and other mental health issues. I'm in trouble


I am pregnant but I sleep with my husband in the hospital every day. Hospital bills also increased and we ran out of money. At the new hospital where we were transferred, they said that if the leg was not amputated, nothing would be done. We have no choice but to agree. Even after the amputation, he still hasn't recovered well, but he's getting better. Since then we went to the hospital for treatment. Each time it seems to improve, new complications will develop. If it wasn't drug resistance, that would be another health issue I can't even explain. To be honest, life has changed for the worse for me. I feel like a completely unhappy person.


The hospitals we visit now charge us a lot of money. I need to access our shared account to pay the bill from there. This joint account is the account we set up for our children and other extended family expenses. As if my suffering wasn't enough, I lost my baby at the age of six months. I just can't explain my life, who I hurt or why I suffer so much. My husband has been at home for the past year, he hasn't fully recovered from the accident, we still go to the hospital often. Sometimes they discovered something new while we were away, sometimes they took him to the hospital and that's how we've lived since then. He apologizes every day, but an apology is not enough to improve my life. I don't blame him because I know he's innocent, but I'm tired of living like this. I have a job but I can't even concentrate well because I'm always distracted thinking about my husband.

That's really wrong. I can't even talk about rebirth because we weren't at our best. We didn't even have sex after the incident in 2019. Life is very difficult for me and the worst thing is that I am too young to go through such situations. I love my husband very much, but after thinking about it, I am thinking of leaving this marriage. It brought nothing but pain and sorrow. I am really sad in this marriage. It's not what I expected, but I still love my husband. I remember my wedding vows, but I can't continue this marriage. please what can i do? I am sad. What can I? I lost my life and I don't know how to deal with it.

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