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My Sister Is Fighting With Me Over My Husband

I think I'm going mad. I’m pouring it out to have some peace. My younger sister wants my husband to marry her and she is ready to do anything to get him.

I got a job outside the country which was good news because I’d been unemployed for almost 3 years. My husband was the breadwinner and though he wasn’t complaining I knew the extra money will help. So I allowed my sister, Ama who was then 14 years to come and stay with him to take care of the house before leaving.

On his birthday, she sent him a card and signed it with “from your little wife Ama.” He got disturbed by her wording and sent it to me but I felt it’s nothing. She was referred to as his junior wife because I’m older than her so I didn’t see anything wrong (my first mistake). Four months later, our elder sister called me that she’d gone there to check up on them and the dress Ama was wearing was too skimpy. The girl said she’d worn all her clothes and was going to wash them.

The second time this happened, I called the girl myself and told her to advice herself. I told her not to wear such clothes again. 

I got a two week break and came back to Ghana. All was well but 2 months after returning, I realized I was pregnant. Everyone was happy but Ama said something like, “is that why everyone is happy?” I just didn’t mind her.

When she turned 16, this girl got pregnant. When asked who impregnated, she said my husband’s cousin Eli. Days later, my husband and Eli went to see my parents. My husband apologised on Eli’s behalf and his cousin told them he’s willing to take responsibilities of my sister. 

That he was ready to buy a car and get a driver to take her to and from school because my parents no longer wanted her to be in boarding school. That he’d also rent and furnish a provision shop and provide monthly upkeep for her. My parents accepted it and when they told me, I was relieved because a part of me was scared that maybe the baby was for my husband.

When she gave birth, Eli came to name the baby but he said he wanted to name him after his grandfather. I came back to Ghana two weeks after the naming ceremony. That’s when I realized my husband hardly stays at home. Anytime I complained, he’ll remind me that he lived alone for 2 years and he only had time for our son. I got a job and cancelled my contract abroad just to save my marriage but it was still not working so I just devoted my time to my job and son.

One day, my elder sister called me to come to Ama’s shop. When I got there, her phone was off so she told me to wait. She charged it and sent me a video of a heated argument between my husband and Eli. 

My husband was warning Eli to stay away from Ama. It was the store keeper who had been giving my sister info about my husband’s affair with Ama.

It was as if my whole world shattered. We later found out that it was all a cover. It was actually my husband who impregnated Ama and told his cousin, Eli who happens to be married to cover for him. That whole grandfather’s name was to cover things because my husband wouldn’t allow his cousin to name his child. Now Eli too had started having sex with Ama which annoyed my husband. The car, the store and everything was from my husband and not Eli.

I still want to make my marriage work but Ama has been fighting with me since then. She puts doubts about my baby in my husband’s head and all of a sudden he started asking me if the child is truly his because he only looks like me.

So I told him to do a DNA test, he refused until I involved his mother in the issue. So we did it which showed he’s the father. My parents have done everything to stop Ama from following my husband but to no avail. She has left the house and she is living in a house my husband rented for her. I know the area but don’t know where she stays.

She keeps calling me everyday to leave her lover for her because I didn’t take good care of him. I don’t know what to do. I’m so confused. I’ve talked to people including his parents who promised to help me but I’m just losing my husband. As for my parents, my husband and sister don’t even pick their calls anymore. Eli came to apologise but he’s not doing anything to help me. It’s clear my husband doesn’t love me anymore. I don’t know what to do, if I walk away it means I allowed my little sister to win.

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