Maybe the girl of your dreams is your friend, but you want more. She acts as if she likes you sometimes, but you cannot tell. You’d like to ask her out, but she’s sending you mixed signals and you’re not sure if she just wants to be friends. To help you deal with a girl that may be leading you on, look for clues, talk to her, and either define the relationship with her or move on to other girls.
Notice flirting cues. It may be hard to determine if she's actually flirting with you or just being nice. It's easy to misinterpret girls' friendliness for romantic interest. Some ways you can tell if she’s flirting include: She leans toward you, smiles, and touches your arm while you’re talking. She often compliments you, especially how you look.thanksShe talks about being able single or wanting to date in front of you. She often tries to spend time with you one-on-one. She plays with her hair or tries to get you to notice her.
Pay close attention to what she says. A girl may be flirting with you, but her words are more important than her actions. Keep in mind this could be difficult or confusing because girls tend to try to be too nice and indirect when they’re not interested. If she mentions a boyfriend or that she’s not interested in dating, she’s likely not interested in you in that way, even if her body language is flirtatious.
Talk to friends. Before you talk to her, talk to your friends or people you trust to get a fresh perspective. Chances are, you’re probably over-thinking your relationship with her, reading into every little thing she does or doesn’t do, and using a lot of energy thinking about her. Consulting with friends will help you get a more clear idea of what her behavior looks like from others.
Talk to her. Confront her about her flirtatious or leading-on behavior. If you’re interested in her, you need to know if she likes you or not. You may be scared to talk to her for fear of being rejected, but you’ll never know how she really feels or what she really means by her flirting until you directly ask. If you talk over text, online, through a phone call, it may be less awkward or uncomfortable. Sometimes it’s harder to be clear about how you feel over text, so keep your language clear, simple, and direct. You can say, “I am attracted to you and I thought you might be too, because you wanted me to take you to the movies, complimented me a lot, and said you wanted to hang out with me more. I feel confused lately though. Are you interested in dating or not?” If you meet in person, you’ll have an easier time reading her face and body language.
Give her time. Once you’ve made your feelings clear, it's important to listen to and respect her feelings. Be patient and don’t expect an immediate answer from her. Be sensitive, but be clear that you want her to stop leading you on and to date her exclusively. Don't argue with her if she needs time to think it over. You can say, "I want to be with you, and I hope you feel the same, but I know you might need some time to think about it. How about we get back together next week to see how you feel? "If she seems ambivalent or isn't being direct with you, take some time for yourself to think about if you really want to be with her. Usually ambivalence is a "no," but she's just being too polite to say so directly.
Deal with rejection. Does she only want to stay “just friends?” Try not to take it personally. She may have something going on in her life that you don’t know about that’s making her send mixed signals, so it might be better for you to stay away. You deserve someone who can be completely available for a relationship.
Set boundaries. If she just wants to stay friends, and you think you can handle that, set some boundaries around how you spend time with her from now on. Because she was flirting with you or leading you on to feel like she was interested, you’ll want to change the way you do things so that you can avoid her leading you on again. Keep in mind that you might have difficulty being “just friends” with her since you’ve developed feelings. Spend some time apart. Unfollow her on social media. You’ll feel better if you don’t have to see everything about her all the time, especially if she’s flirting with other people. Call her out when she flirts with you. Avoid answering her phone calls or texts right away. You don’t have to be so convenient to her. Spend time with her in safer group settings.
Learn from this experience. So that you don’t get hurt again in the same way with another girl friend, remember and learn from this experience. You’re only responsible for you and can’t make someone change their flirting. But, you deserve a girl who is willing to be available for you and not use you. Don’t take what she did personally, but do remember how her actions made you feel. Now you’ll know what to watch out for with other girls!
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