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Six decent techniques to survive without a girlfriend or boyfriend

Are you one of those people who believes you cannot survive without a girlfriend or boyfriend? Maybe you have been coupled up since your preteen years and have recently endured a breakup. Or, maybe you have never been in a serious relationship and worry what this means. The jury's out and the verdict is in: being single can be wonderful. Learn how to make the most out of your unattached relationship status.

Pursue hobbies. All people - single and not - need creative outlets to minimize stress, generate happy vibes, and connect with those around you. Relationships can become a detriment when people are so immersed in "we" that they forget about the "I". Relish in your singlehood by taking time out to do the things you enjoy whether it is crafting, canoeing, or writing poems.

Learn to enjoy solitude. If you have been in a relationship for many years, you may not remember how to be alone. You may even hate being alone. Yes, spending time with others is important, but solitude is an essential aspect of personal growth. Read, watch movies, or simply sit on your patio and enjoy the setting sun. Take 5-10 minutes out of each day to sit alone and reflect on your thoughts, feelings, and opinions of the day. If the process of being alone makes you uncomfortable, write about the experience. Why is it hard for you? What exactly about being alone don't you like.

Appreciate the benefits of being single. Challenge the idea that single is "bad". Not having a significant other is a choice just the same as where you live or work. You can fully enjoy your single life - whether it is decidedly temporary or permanent. Here are a few things single people have to their advantage: The ability to pursue passions and interests. The ability to be totally spontaneous - no need to coordinate with another The option to figure out what you want before entering another relationship The freedom to live life on your own terms.

Cultivate supportive relationships. You may not have a girlfriend or boyfriend, but you can always enrich the friendships and close family relationships you have. Especially when you're young, romantic relationships may come and go. Friends and family, on the other hand, may stick with you for life. You don't necessarily need a relationship to be happy. Humans do, however, have a natural need to belong and connect. Invest time and effort in your close relationships. If or when you do enter a new romantic relationship, you will have a healthier outlook and expectations if you have nurtured your preexisting relationships

Get a furry companion. If you are single and live alone, the solitude may be overwhelming. Aim for a careful balance of spending time alone and spending time with others so you don't drive yourself stir crazy. Sciences tells us that those who are isolated, particularly older adults, have a higher incidence of death. A soft and cuddly cat or dog may make a great companion to cozy up to at night while watching Netflix. Plus, pet owners tend to be healthier and happier.

Recognize that only you can determine your worthiness. Not having a partner does not mean you don't belong or are unlovable. Oftentimes, people mistakenly allow their relationship status to determine their self-worth. Thinking "I'm nothing without a boyfriend" will only reinforce the idea that somehow you are not as worthy while single. Avoid this by purposely seeking out ways you are worthy of love, respect, and a wonderful life. Take an inventory of your personal strengths. What do you have to offer the world and the people around you? Write down your best qualities and paste them on a mirror or wall so that you can see them daily. Do you find it difficult to assess your best attributes? Turn to a close friend or relative ans ask them to share a few qualities they admire about you.

Don't feel the need to be attached because your friends are. When you are the only single and everyone around you is coupled, you can easily start to think being in a relationship is the way to go. Don't. Romantic relationships take a lot of hard work, compromise, and commitment. They are far from easy. If you're not ready to be paired off, don't let jealousy or fear push you into a relationship just to avoid sticking out.

Expand your social circle. If all of your friends are currently in relationships, and you're tired of being the third-wheel, it may be a good idea for you to hang out with others who are single. This is not to say that you should abandon your existing friendships. However, you may have more fun spending time with teens or young adults who are participating in solo activities. Try striking up conversations with other guys or girls in your classes, when you're out with your kid or when you are at work. When people invite you to events that you and your group wouldn't normally attend, say "yes". Spending time with more singles may help you to realize just how wonderful being unattached can be.

Fight stress. It is common for people in relationships to get caught up in serving their partners that they may neglect their own well-being. This neglect feels ten times worse once the relationship ends. Surviving and thriving as a single person means taking good care of yourself. Identify the things in your life causing you stress and build a toolbox with healthy coping strategies. Practice regular self-care to fend of stress before it jeopardizes your health. Come up with a few activities that you find relaxing to perform on a daily or weekly basis. Calling a friend, getting a massage, taking long walks, and reading are all positive ways to manage stress.

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