1..Give yourself permission to grieve.
Finding out your boyfriend may be cheating hurts a lot, so let out your pain. Acknowledge how you’re feeling right now and express your emotions in a healthy way. Give yourself as much time as you need to grieve. This will help you feel better faster.
Say to yourself, “I feel so betrayed right now” or “I feel so sad because I thought we were perfect together.”
2..Use healthy coping strategies to process your emotions.
You might feel overwhelmed by your feelings at times, and expressing them can help you feel better. Try different coping strategies to figure out what helps you work through your emotions. For instance, you might do the following:
Call your best friend to vent.
Write in your journal.
Take a hot bath and listen to relaxing music.
Watch your favorite comedy.
Go for a walk or run.
Express yourself through art.
3..Spend time with your support network to remind you you’re loved.
Going through a heartbreak can make you feel like your love has abandoned you. However, you actually have a lot of people around you who love you so much! Take your mind off of what’s happening with your boyfriend by spending time with your friends and family. Invite them to hang out at home or to do something fun.
For instance, invite your best friend to your house for a movie night or go bowling with a group of friends.
Try not to talk about what’s going on with your boyfriend. Instead, focus on the great relationships you have in your life.
4..Remind yourself that you aren’t at fault for his decisions.
When your partner cheats, you may try to figure out what you did wrong in the relationship. However, there’s no excuse for his decision to cheat! He is the only one responsible for his cheating, so don’t blame yourself. When you start to worry you did something wrong, tell yourself that you can’t control what he does.
Say, “I don’t control his behavior. If he decided to cheat, that’s his fault, not mine.”
Tip: Sometimes a cheating partner will point out problems in the relationship that they claim drove them to cheat. For instance, your boyfriend might say, “You weren’t paying attention to me” or “You were too busy with your friends, so I met someone else.” However, the truth is that he could have talked to you about your issues instead of cheating. Don’t accept the blame.
5..Practice self care so your needs are met.
Right now you probably feel like eating ice cream and binge-watching TV. However, you’ll feel better faster if you eat healthy meals, get dressed, exercise, and follow a routine. Write out a simple routine that you can follow while you’re feeling down about your relationship. Additionally, do something nice for yourself every day.
For example, you might set a goal to get dressed, go to work or school, exercise, and work on a hobby. Additionally, you might plan simple, healthy meals like yogurt with cut up fruit, a salad with grilled chicken, or a turkey wrap with a side of steamed veggies.
6..Focus on being happy rather than getting even.
When you find out your boyfriend cheated, it’s natural to want to get revenge. It’s okay to fantasize about kissing his friend or keying his car, but actually doing it is a bad idea. You’ll likely feel even worse and might end up in trouble. Instead of worrying about revenge, do things that make you feel happy.
As an example, buy yourself a new outfit, bake cookies with your best friend, or go on a road trip with your friend group.
It’s okay to indulge your fantasies of revenge. For instance, you might picture yourself ruining his favorite record or putting a dead fish in his car. Just don’t go through with it!
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