Finding the right partner feels like a whole lot of work. There are so many moving parts to a relationship–attractiveness, trust, honesty, communication, intimacy, s£x life, etc.–that it may feel like there’s no hope in finding a partner that you can spend your life with.
Well, I’m here to tell you that there is hope. Choosing a wife or a husband isn’t hard because it’s impossible. It’s hard because we go about it the wrong way. We look outward to the world and hope we can find someone to complete us, rather than looking inward at ourselves and making ourselves whole first. Here are some ways to choose the right partner:
1. Chose someone attractive to you, physically. They don’t have to be perfect, but you need to feel the least attracted to them if you want to build a long-lasting relationship.
2. After you found an attractive person, you need to see if you are compatible with them. Talk with them, and see if you have that connection that’ll allow you two to build a relationship.
3. Find someone that has a good character. You don’t need to go deep into a relationship with someone that has a terrible personality, and then get stuck because you grew to love them and can’t see the red flags anymore.
4. Discuss your goals in life. You don’t need to have the same goals, but see if your goals are compatible with each other. If you chose someone without knowing the direction they want to take in their life, you could end up getting at a point where your relationship gets destroyed because of that.
5. See how they are with their family. If they don’t respect their own family, there’s no way they’d respect you.
6. Be objective. I know it’s hard, but when you chose a lifelong partner, your only argument can’t be “because!”. The first wave of overflowing love and excitement will eventually fade out, and then you’ll realise they aren’t the best person for you and you just chose them on a whim and that’d be a shame.
7. Involve your family. If you live in a western country, that may seem weird to you, and I understand completely. But know that if the person is okay with meeting your family, they’re serious about you, even a little bit. If they’re here just to play, and if they aren’t ready to commit to you, they will hate the idea of meeting your family.
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