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6 Things You Should Never Tell Your Partner, No Matter How Close You Are

Some people think that the apex of intimacy requires an absolute lack of boundaries, secrets, or ambiguity. Though honesty is generally a good thing in any kind of relationship, there are still some things you should never tell your partner, no matter how close you are. There are just certain aspects of your life that are best left to your partner's imagination. Obviously every couple is unique, and different lifestyle choices bother some people more than others. Only you can decide where your comfort zone is and where the threshold for privacy is between you and your partner. With that said, however, there are a few caveats when it comes to exactly how transparent you and your significant other should be. Check out what these experts believe you should never tell your partner regardless of how close you are.

"We're Not Like We Used To Be." If you've been in a relationship for an extended period of time, it's normal to be nostalgic for the early, honeymoon days. The problem with lamenting that things aren't like they used to be is that it's, "fighting against the reality that love changes over time." This isn't to say you can't miss the good old days. Rather than focusing on the negative, you could simply make plans to do the kinds of activities that you used to do instead.

"You Complete Me." You may mean well when you say this, but it, "creates an energetic imbalance in the relationship as it elevates your partner to a higher or more dominant status." A healthier way to express this feeling is to compliment your partner by highlighting how well you work together as a team.

An Insult Disguised As A Joke. Sarcasm can take many forms, and there's a fine line between comedy and tragedy. "sarcastic comments that put your partner down will erode the relationship and are likely to leave your partner feeling frustrated." No matter how close you are with your partner, what you may think is a joke can feel like a dig to your significant other.

"You've Put On Some Weight." Once you've been with someone for a while, it's easy to slip into a comfort zone where you no longer use a filter. Any form of body shaming is destructive in a relationship. Even if you just want your partner to be healthy, putting it in such harsh terms is more likely to make the situation worse than better.

"It's Fine." Sometimes things may truly be fine, but this phrase can be a bit of a minefield between partners regardless of how close you are. "using 'fine' can leave things unresolved and breed resentment." If the issue bothers you but you simply don't want to address it at the moment, then tell them that instead of saying, "It's fine."

"Because I Said So." This is a statement best left to parents and their children, not equal partners in a relationship. The phrase "trivializes your spouse and reduces [them] to a juvenile status." Why is this so detrimental and something you should never tell your partner? Gross explained that it makes your loved one feel inferior. Take the few extra seconds to explain your reasoning rather than resorting to this demeaning saying.

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