From the podium of the Quarters Agogo Youth Meet, the queen mother of Asante Akyem Agogo sat peacefully with her subjects as she explained what marriage in Akan means. Our tradition is simple, but you the youth of today, is making our tradition look complicated with your desire for foreign invaded lifestyles. In our culture, one doesn't need to stress themselves when they see their wives. If you see a woman outside and you admire her personality, you talk to her to know her character and if you admire that also, you go forward to see her family.
That is where you present your schnapps to her family making your intentions open to the family that, you are interested in their daughter and wants to have a life with her. With your token of schnapps, the woman's family will enquire from the woman if she also feels the same way for you, and if the answer is yes, then the family will accept your token of schnapps.
The token presented is the engagement in our culture. Don't get your culture wrong, the token you presented to the woman's family is the engagement rites you have performed. The other one which can be performed is the wedding itself, the one you invite other people to come to celebrate with food.
Knocking is an engagement, you are his wife because knocking is a marriage act in our culture. The one you newcomers calls engagement is the real wedding and it is never compulsory to do the wedding if you have done knocking with schnapps. You are officially married and that is our culture.
The white wedding is not part of our culture so don't ever stress anyone that if they haven't done a white wedding or the traditional wedding you call engagement, then the person hasn't been married. If there has been knocking and acceptance, there has been a marriage rite performed so leave the poor woman alone, the Asante Akyem Agogo Queen mother stated in calm.
The Queen-mother Nana Afrakoma Serwaa Kusi Obuadum was answering youths questions on her usually quarterly youth engagements when one woman rose to her feet to seek the Queenmothers thoughts on the pressure her husband's family was giving her. Tell your husband's family that, I Nana Afrakoma Serwaa said you have been married because knocking is a marriage act in our culture. If they disturb you again, come summon them at the palace and let's deal with them.
Do not waste money on weddings if you cannot afford them, go and do knocking and save yourself the stress. Use the remaining money to build your family, that is our culture, not someone's culture, the queen mother said in enticing the youth to make a sound marital judgement based on their financial standing.
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