We seem to have a lot of expectations from one another these days. Many of us yearn for love but are ill-equipped to give or accept it. The concept of unconditional love appears to have been forgotten. Unconditional love is a true test, and while it may appear simple, it is possibly one of the most challenging attributes to possess. This type of love demands loving oneself unconditionally before being able to give it to another human being.
What exactly is love? Unconditional love is pure love, it is concerned about the happiness of others without expecting anything in return. It's the kind of love that's offered without expecting or even caring if it'll be returned. When someone likes you just because you can offer them what they want, it is not unconditional love. Loving someone based on a particular situation such as being rich or healthy is not unconditional love. Simply said, unconditional love, is love without conditions. It's love that you freely give. Your love for them isn't based on what they will do for you in return. You just adore them and desire nothing more than for them to be happy.
However, there are some conditions that no one should put up with in a love relationship. Accepting truly harmful and toxic behavior is not part of unconditional love. If there is constant hurt, abuse, or cheating in the love relationship, commitment should come to an end.
It can be difficult to provide unconditional love if you have never received it. Here are seven methods to practice this kind of love and make a real difference in your life and the lives of others.
1. Love is more about how you act than how you feel.
You won't go far wrong if you think of love in this way. If you treat love as an emotion that you experience when you receive something from someone else and then cease receiving it, your feelings will shift along with your actions. When you try to be someone you aren't, or if you have to do anything to get love, you've created a conditional relationship. If, on the other hand, you begin to act in a specific manner without expecting someone else to be someone they are not, then that love is unconditional. Because your love is not contingent on what others do or say. You may continue to act in the same manner regardless of how others behave.
2. Make your love adaptable to others.
Love is received and offered in a variety of ways. Every day, and in every new scenario, you make a conscious decision to love unconditionally. In life, change is unavoidable. Though adaptation is not a natural trait in humans, it may be learned over time. By making us more adaptable, adjusting our expectations will go a long way toward assisting us in flowing with the winds of change. There are no universal rules; your love must be adaptable to each individual.
3. Give yourself unconditional love.
If you're a people pleaser, as many of us are, you'll be more concerned with giving love to others than with giving love to yourself. Because you'll let how they make you feel dictate how much love you wish to reciprocate to them. In such instances, the love you offer to others will not be unconditional.
If you are continually pleasing others, on the other hand, you are deficient in self-love. So first and foremost, give yourself unconditional love because you deserve it and the rest will follow.
4. Love can be uncomfortable at times.
To truly love someone, you must be able to take the good with the bad, and protecting someone from discomfort is not proof of unconditional love in this case. Pain and growth are natural parts of life, and shielding them from them isn't love—you'll do more harm than good if you try to make them feel pleased all of the time. Unconditional love necessitates allowing someone to feel sorrow for them to find their path and grow at their speed.
5. Learn to forgive.
People aren't perfect, and almost everyone makes a few bad decisions. However, unconditional love necessitates unconditional acceptance. This isn't about letting someone rub their feet all over you; it's about selecting a better, nicer response for yourself. If someone has wronged you or disappointed you, choose forgiveness by letting go of your anger and resentment. Depending on what has happened, how you respond toward a specific person will differ, but if you choose to act compassionately and not hold on to negative thoughts, you will love them unconditionally.
6. Love those who you believe do not deserve it.
When someone else is critical of you or about you, it's usually because they lack something in their own lives that prevents them from loving themselves fully. If you notice this before reacting and put yourself in their shoes, you will be better able to deal with the problem because you realize it has more to do with them than with you. It is at this point that you decide to give unconditional love and to do it more regularly. Being this way will not only benefit the toxic individuals around you, but it will also benefit you.
7. Every day, perform a tiny act of unconditional love.
At least once a day, try to give something without expecting anything in return. It can be as simple as opening a door for someone else, giving way to another vehicle in traffic congestion, or telling someone you love them without expecting a response.
Do something every day, and I promise you'll get a lot of joy from just offering unconditional love, even if you don't want anything in return.
You can't love someone unconditionally unless your feelings for them don't alter no matter what they do. You will never know whether you love them unconditionally if the conditions that triggered the love for them in the first place haven't changed yet. However, you can love someone unconditionally even if you are not in a love relationship with them. LET LOVE LEAD.
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