Welcome to my channel once again, In this particular piece, we shall discuss about expert approaches on how to win your girlfriend's trust back after lying.
Apologize. If you want to earn a girl's trust back, the very first thing you should do is to apologize sincerely about lying and hurting her. Whether you cheated on her, lied about spending a weekend with your friends in Vegas instead of at your grandmother's, or lied about a significant personal detail, it's inevitable that she's feeling hurt, confused, and like she doesn't know you anymore. Let her know that you understand how difficult you have made things for her, and that you deeply regret what you've done. Take full responsibility, show her you know you were wrong. She's not going to go for a half-hearted apology. It needs to be sincere and real. Don't just say "I'm sorry" because you think it's the right thing to do, say it because you mean it. If you're not sincere, she'll be able to tell. When you tell her you're sorry, look into her eyes, speak slowly, and face your body toward her so she knows she has all of your attention.
Be honest about why you lied. You don't have to go in too much graphic detail if you think it'll only hurt her more, but you should be honest about why you told the lie. Maybe you wanted to protect her, maybe you knew that the truth would hurt her, or maybe you were even embarrassed about the truth and wanted to cover it up. Whatever your reason, let her know why you did it. This will show that you're already maturing and trying to reflect, and that you're not just going to move on without gaining some perspective. Being honest about why you lied will make her feel like you're more likely to be honest in the future. Letting her know your motives will help her understand your perspective. Know when it's better not to be honest. If you just wanted to get with another girl because you were feeling bored or restless, then it's better to keep that to yourself.
Promise it will never happen again. First, you have to make sure that it really won't happen again. If you doubt yourself or your future self and think you may make the same mistake, then spare the girl and work on fixing yourself before you get entangled with anyone else. If you don't think that you should be trusted, then why should anyone else disagree? Once you're certain that it won't happen again, then you should promise her that you're determined not to repeat your mistakes. Be sincere when you tell her this. Don't make an empty promise. Let her know that you understand that actions speak louder than words, but make it clear that from now on, your actions will match your promises.
Give her space. Once you've told her everything you want to say, it's time to give her some space. The worst thing you can do to earn a girl's trust back is to call her or show up at her place constantly until she feels completely suffocated by you. Instead, let her know that you'll be stepping back and waiting for her to reach out when she's ready. This doesn't mean that you should completely cease communication, but it does mean that you should back off for a while until she's ready to talk to you. You can check in with a text or a phone call every few days, but only if she does sound like she wants to talk to you -- however reluctantly. If you want to be sweet, you can send her flowers, but don't overdo it. If she's really angry, then she won't be ready for your gifts.
Be dependable. If you want your girl to trust you again, then you have to be absolutely dependable, even if you weren't in the past. This means that you have to be there for her if she needs help, to follow through on your plans, and to show up to your dates on time -- or even a little early. If you're not dependable after lying to her, she'll be even less inclined to trust you. Go out of your way to be helpful and supportive. Let her see that you'll be there for her. Even if you didn't go watch her basketball games before, show up to watch a few games after school to show that you care. Let her open up and talk to you about her problems. This will show that she's starting to trust you again. You should be dependable, but that doesn't mean you should become her lap dog or servant maintain your own identity while being as helpful as possible. You don't want her to think that you're downright groveling, or that won't be very attractive.
Be accessible. If you want to earn your girl's trust back, then you have to be easily accessible. Though you don't need to give her a copy of your schedule, she should have a sense of where you are most of the time, or she'll start to worry again. If she calls or texts you, you should try to get back to her as soon as you can. If you leave her waiting more than a few hours, or even a day, then she'll start doubting your ability to change. You can casually let her know what you'll be up to when she's not around. If you're going to a baseball game with your friends, let her know, and get her a teddy bear with your favorite team's logo on it. If you're going to your uncle's beach house, send her a picture of the ocean and say you wish she was there.
Make her feel special. You may have started to earn the girl's trust back, but how do you keep it? You have to make her feel special so that she knows that she means a lot to you, and that you won't go and lie whenever you feel like it. To make her feel special, you should act like a gentleman, take her out on romantic dates, compliment her looks and personality, and show an interest in her hobbies, thoughts, and goals. If she looks beautiful, don't be afraid to tell her.
Open up to her. If you want to keep the girl's trust, then you have to learn to really open up to her. Tell her things about yourself that you haven't told many people or that you haven't told anyone, even and make her see that you really trust and care about her. If you tell her personal or private information, then she'll see that you really value her judgment and reaction, and that you want to be really honest with her. You don't have to tell her anything that makes you uncomfortable. Just make her see that you trust her with your personal moments, and hopefully she'll reciprocate. If you take the time to let her really know you, she'll appreciate it and will see how sincere you are.
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