Being a good boyfriend isn't always easy, even if you have an amazing partner. A good boyfriend knows when to talk, and when to listen; when to offer advice, and when to offer empathy; when to shower them with attention, and when to give her some space. You need to be someone they can trust and admire, and even someone who makes them want to be a better partner. A good boyfriend adapts to the situation, and knows the job is never finished.
Expressing and Sharing Feelings
1. Be honest. In any relationship, and with only very rare exceptions, honesty is the best policy. If you're honest from the beginning of your relationship, then you'll be less likely to run into trouble down the line.
You should tell them what they need to know without overwhelming them with the truth. For example, if you had a serious past relationship, you can let them know without revealing every little detail about your ex.
Temper your honesty with kindness. Don't feel as if you have to make every response seem like a compliment. Instead, offer an alternative. For example, if they ask you if you like something they are trying on, let her know that it might work, but you think the blue one is your favorite so far because it shows off their great eyes and their stunning personality.
You should not only be comfortable with being honest, but you should be accepting of their honesty as well. If you want to be a good boyfriend, you should be able to handle the truth.
2. Trust them. Trust your partner and give them reason to trust you. Trust should form the foundation of your relationship. This will allow you to create a more open relationship toward each other, as well as creating a very good understanding in what your mate wants, feels, and needs.
You can show that you trust your partner by telling them something that a lot of people don't know about you.
You can secure their trust in you by showing that you care and are concerned if they tell you something personal and important to them.
3..Contribute equally to conversations. When you talk, try to seek some amount of balance in the flow of conversation. If you're too quiet, they may think you're losing interest in them. If you're too talkative, they may think you're self-obsessed or plain impolite.
Conversations are about give and take. The same is true for relationships. They never succeed when they're one-sided.
Obviously, there will be occasions when you do talk a lot (such as when something exciting or important happens) or when you retreat a bit (such as when something bad happens). On the whole, though, aim for a balance of conversation.
4. Be a good listener. Instead of thinking about the next thing you want to say, or something else entirely, focus on listening to them. Think about what they are saying. Always seem interested and fully engaged in their presence.
Remember, a conversation with your partner isn't just acknowledging, it's also about remembering. If your partner is telling you about an important experience, make a mental note of it.
If they've told you something twice before and you have no idea what they're talking about because you weren't really listening, they"ll know and they won't be happy about it.
"Listen" to their non-verbal "conversations" as well. Learn to tell when something is bothering them even when they won't say it. What does their expression, their body language, or even the way they keep twirling their hair tell you?
5. Learn to compromise. Compromise is a big part of successful communication. If you and your partner can't disagree without getting into a big fight or without one person immediately giving in to the needs of the other, then you have a problem. To be good at compromising, you should be able to talk about your needs and wants while understanding where your partner is coming from, instead of ignoring their side of the story.
After you and your partner discuss your thoughts on a certain situation, you can work together to make a pros and cons list, and decide what will be best for both of you.
Sometimes, you and your partner will have to give in to one another. That's okay, as long as you're taking turns. If they pick the movie for date night, for example, you should pick the dinner location and where to go for dessert afterward.
Part of learning to compromise is using a calm, even voice when you have a disagreement. Never yell, swear, or (under any circumstances, ever) hit them, no matter how angry you become. Walk away for awhile if you have to, and come back when you can talk rationally.
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