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Five tips on how to win your ex girlfriend back

In today's write-up, we shall look at tips on how to win your ex girlfriend back after break up. Break-ups are often painful and sometimes brutally so. If you have gone through a breakup and find yourself wanting to get back together with an ex-girlfriend, there are some important steps you’ll need to take and considerations you will need to address in order to get her back. Below are some of the things you can do to win your ex girlfriend back.

1.Think very carefully about what ended the relationship. This step is important for two key reasons: one, because you should think very carefully about why you want to get back together, and two, because the relationship ended for a reason, and if you want to get back together, you need to be prepared to address that reason. Showing her you’ve reflected on the relationship and are prepared to learn from previous mistakes will demonstrate that you’re serious and willing to change. If you approach your ex with a thoughtful response to past problems and a willingness to change, she’ll be more likely to reconsider the relationship. You might say something like, for example, “I’ve thought about why we broke up, and I think part of it was because I didn’t understand that when got mad at me for being late, you were really upset because you felt like I wasn’t making you a priority, and I’d like to change that.” Admitting to what you may have done wrong will help show that you care enough about the relationship to take responsibility and that you’re not just trying to get back together for superficial reasons.


2. Focus on you for a while

Do not obsess over the relationship’s end or fixate all your attention on getting back together. Instead, take time to yourself. Reconnect with your favorite hobbies, hang out with friends, and re- familiarize yourself with who you are apart from your relationship.

You may find that you actually aren’t missing much at all and that your initial desire to get back together was more emotional than rational. Don’t be afraid to be on your own. One of the worst reasons to get back into a relationship is because you’re afraid to be alone. That spells disaster for both you and the relationship.


3.Network

If you know your intentions are good and if you’re on good terms with her friends, you might consider recruiting their help. But proceed cautiously this can backfire in a big way if her friends decide to speak up against you rather than for you. If you can get the help of her friends, though, they can be invaluable allies in helping your cause.


4. Start slow

When you’ve taken enough time apart and are ready to try reaching out to her, do so in a low-pressure way. Don’t start off in an emotionally-loaded way by saying something like, “I really want us to get back together” or the dreaded “we need to talk.” Make it clear that you only want to get together as friends to check in on each other’s lives, not to make a desperate attempt at reconciliation or hash out past grievances. Set up a meeting in a neutral, low-pressure space. Suggest getting lunch or a cup of coffee. Avoid choosing a location that’s emotionally charged for the two of you, like a cafe you used to frequent together or the restaurant you went to for your first date. It might seem like a clever move, but it will just taint the encounter and be more likely to put her on the defensive from the start.


5. Keep things casual

If your first meetup goes well and you’re both amenable to meeting up again, aim for a similarly low-pressure situation. Make it clear that you’re interested in reconnecting as friends at this point and that you’re not expecting this to mean that you’re back together. If, after spending some no-pressure time together, you both mutually feel that there’s still a strong connection between you, you can bring up the topic of your relationship and whether the two of you might want to explore the possibility of getting back together. You might say something like, “I’ve been thinking about our breakup, and I think I understand the problems that led up to it. Do you want to talk about it?” If she reacts negatively to this suggestion, back off. The harder you push when she’s not receptive, the more you’ll hurt your own cause. Give it some more time and re-address the topic if she seems more receptive. If she still isn’t into it, start to reconcile yourself to the possibility that it may just not happen.


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