Most couple sometimes struggles with impatience. At least, every marriage couple will admits that patience is not one of their strength, and will certainly has their own struggles with frustration, usually when they're busy and over-tired (like, I admit, today).
When things don’t go according to plan, your spouse doesn’t act in the way you expect, and the kids are being crazy, falling into impatience is a common response. But just because impatience is common doesn’t make it okay, especially when it means lashing out at your spouse!
We had to learn how to control our impatience the hard way–years of trial and error!
Here are 3 ways for you to Practice Patience in Your Marriage:
1. Understand what triggers impatience
While there are some obvious triggers like being too busy, not having enough rest, or not feeling well, there are more subtle triggers, as well. One of the triggers in some marriages is a disconnect in our styles of communication. When one couple carefully crafting his or her thought before speaking them. The others just blurt out whatever is on their mind, often not really thinking through their words. This can cause both of you to become impatient, because of you guys are not on the same page when trying to talk to each others.
2. Recognize when you start feeling impatient
It’s so important to stop a small frustration before it turns into an outburst. There is usually some buildup, so learn to recognize when you’re starting to feel impatient and take steps to calm down. During this period, it is important to remember what not to be say to your spouse. Doing this will helps you to avoid saying something that will end or bring misunderstanding between you. Remember to calm down for this is the important step for practicing patient in your marriage.
3. Realize you aren’t in control
This is a big one. At the end of the day, impatience usually boils down to not having control in the way you believe you should, even subconsciously. If you can step outside of the moment, remind yourself that it’s okay if things aren’t going according to plan because plans often go awry and you aren’t in control. Giving up an attempt to control circumstances will go a long way toward helping you develop greater patience.
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