Romantic attraction doesn’t always remain in relationships. Over time, the spark could fade, leading to decreased romantic attraction. When you are in a relationship for several years, the ins and outs of everyday life can cause us to forget what’s truly important. When we aren’t paying attention to our partners, the level of attraction we feel will often dissipate.
Even though the romantic attraction might be gone, often, the love is still there. This poses a problem in relationships because you will want to stay with the person you love but may struggle with intimacy and sex. Since these two factors are of the utmost importance in a relationship, something must be done. The good news is there are many ways you can renew the attraction you once had with one .
There are many signs that you will need to take action to renew the romantic attraction in your relationship. Some can be spotted with ease, while others are more subtle. You may need to take some extra steps if you or your partner are:
Most people don’t realize that romantic attraction is linked to science. In fact, there have been many studies on falling in and out of love. What scientists have found is that there is an actual cycle that most relationships go through. Anthropologist Helen Fisher classifies these stages as:
The first is when you first begin to feel attracted to your partner. Hormones are at work here (testosterone and estrogen), and you’ll want your object of affection to be just as physically attracted to you as you are him or her. Many lust-based connections never make it past this phase. Many times things fizzle out before they ever begin. Other lust-based lovers get straight to the physical part and remain ‘friends with benefits.’
During the romantic attraction phase, you begin to fall head over heels. You think about him or her all the time. You sweat, your heart races, you obsess over the next time you’ll see each other again. You talk on the phone all night long. You fantasize about a future together. Three chemicals: serotonin, norepinephrine,
This stage of the relationship feels so good. It’s the stuff that fairytales are made of, what we have dreamed of since childhood. We want it to last forever. But it won’t. Read that again. Biologically speaking, our brains are wired for romantic attraction of this kind to fade. But by the time it does, we have usually moved on to stage three: attachment.
Attachment involves a commitment that isn’t required in phase one or two. At this point, you may get engaged, get married, and move in together. You may even start a family. Things will seem great for a while, but scientists have found that something starts to happen around year four.
Remember the chemicals mentioned before? They start to lower. As they decrease, feelings of attraction go away and are replaced by other hormones that make you attach to your partner on a deeper level. Of course, this can happen sooner or later, depending on the circumstance.
Although this change is significant for a long-term commitment, it can ruin an otherwise healthy relationship. So, what is the solution? Keep dopamine and other romantic attraction hormones flowing. Here are some ways you can do so.
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